Here are a few tips that helped me get through times when I felt lost or hopeless. This is my practical, step-by-step guide, hard-earned and tested in real life.
Decide what you want. Pick a small goal for now — anything useful. Take the pressure off. Just pick something to work on that you can do.
Think short-term and what’s in your control. What can do you today, tomorrow, this week, this month? You can act most effectively in this timeframe.
Narrow your focus: Do one (main) thing at a time. You can’t do everything all at once. Once you finish a major goal, you can move on to the next with even more focus, having the first thing done.
Working towards goals
👉 It takes practice.
Visualize the outcome you want. Close your eyes, breath, and picture in vivid detail what you want to happen. This may sound silly, but it can help motivate you and sharpen your focus.
Work towards the outcome you want in small steps every day. Keep your current daily goals modest; keeping a backlog of stuff to do later is helpful.
👉 Doing Great Things is Boring 🤷🏻♂️.
Place your happiness in the progress towards the results, not in the result itself. Steady work in itself will make you feel better.
👉 “The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance; the wise grows it under his feet.”
Yes, work towards an outcome, but don’t get attached to it; you can’t control everything. Focus on what you can do right now and take pride in your effort, however it may turn out.
Keep your ego in check. Do things because they go with your values and goals and not to look good or to avoid judgement.
Your happiness depends only on you, not on external people, places, or things.
👉 The Secrets to Happiness (Distilled)
Taking care of yourself
Enjoy nourishing foods any time you want: water, tea, bone broth, fruit, avocado, nuts, yogurt…
Try some calming sounds. Listen to some ambient music, nature sounds, movie soundtracks, whatever works. You can find these in your music app or even YouTube.
Freshen up your environment. Get outside for some sunlight and fresh air. Open a window. Light a scented candle or incense. Clean and tidy your home.
Move. Walk, stretch, exercise every day. Find an exercise (or two) that works for you. 🧘🏻
Taming your mind
It takes practice.☝️
👉 Super Summary: Think Like a Monk
Ask yourself – is this useful? If you find yourself having unhelpful, repetitive thoughts, then nip them in the bud. These are usually about a past or future that you can’t control and can’t solve by thinking.
Take a few deep breaths, then work on calming yourself.
Focus your mind on a game – Wordle, a crossword puzzle, or a chill app like isowords, Townscaper, paper.io, or MiniMetro.
Work through your thoughts and feelings with journaling. Don’t hold back. Get it all out – the good, the bad, and the ugly. Or just write a haiku about your day to make it more fun. 🤷🏻♂️
Meditate: Clear and observe your mind non-judgmentally. Scan your body, focus on breathing, visualize success, give gratitude, find empathy for others.
Feed your heart, not your fears
Fear makes you do stupid things and must be conquered.
👉 “Fear is the mind-killer.”… “Move, but don’t move the way fear makes you move.”.
Above all, keep faith in yourself. ✌️