“Once In a Lifetime” – riding the wave of midlife

The Talking Heads used to annoy me. They seemed too self-consciously nerdy, as if to say, “Hey, look how weird and nerdy we are! Come on, our music is so weird and confusing!” And David Byrne’s dance moves were super annoying!

Years later, I have come to realize two things:

  1. David Byrne’s dance moves were so annoying because those are my dance moves. 😱. I’ll show you if you don’t believe me.
  2. The song Once In a Lifetime is absolutely brilliant. 🤯

This song is all about time flowing relentlessly under your feet as you try to figure out what the hell you’re doing in your life.

At least that’s my take, thank you very much.

The tight, precise beat underneath emphasizes the odd arrangement layered on top, with perfect midlife observations like this:

You may ask yourself, “What is that beautiful house?”
You may ask yourself, “Where does that highway go to?”
And you may ask yourself, “Am I right? Am I wrong?”
And you may say to yourself, “My God! What have I done?”

But time doesn’t care. It just flows on.

Letting the days go by, let the water hold me down
Letting the days go by, water flowing underground

I guess we all hit a 500-foot waterfall eventually. The only question is what happens between here and there. Do you learn to swim with the river and enjoy the journey, or do you let the water knock and bruise you on the rocks?

Good luck out there. 🏊🏻‍♂️✌️


Takin’ it easy on the Eagles

So I was recently planning to include the Eagles in a recent post as an example of a band that stagnated and got tiresome.

While looking for a “bad” song to include in the post, Take It Easy came up. I was shocked to find the lyrics clever, relatable, and even to have some solid mental health advice.

So the Eagles have escaped my derision and even get their own post. This song is basically saying “stop ruminating, give yourself a break, and take a stand when you have to.”

Don’t let the sound of your own wheels drive you crazy.

Lighten up while you still can
Don’t even try to understand
Just find a place to take your stand
And take it easy.

Also, just for fun, here is a quick summary of the women on his mind in the song. 😆

Want to own meWant to stone meSays she’s a friend of mine

I still think the Eagles stagnated, but they had a great run in 1970’s. When this song came out, country-rock was not yet tiresome. 🤷🏻‍♂️

As a completely unnecessary aside, Steve Martin can tell you why it’s officially “Eagles” and not “The Eagles”.



It’s been a while since I’ve felt the grunge vibe. But lately I’ve been into Nirvana’s All Apologies and the Smashing Pumpkin’s Today.

Sometimes you have to earn your today, and you have to tear your own heart out to get it. If this doesn’t make sense to you, ask me later. 🤷🏻‍♂️

Today is the greatest
Day I’ve ever known
Can’t wait for tomorrow
I might not have that long
I’ll tear my heart out
Before I get out

Me · Music

“I Want It All”

Here is Japanese Breakfast’s perfect companion to The Walkmen singing “Baby, I want everything”.

I want it all.

Japanese Breakfast – Diving Woman

I’m feeling this vibe. I do want it all.

I don’t want six cars, a mansion, a helicopter, or even a fancy watch. Please, no. Just no.

I do want to travel, but not all the time. I could probably spend 1000 years happily just goofing around Central Texas.

But I do want to write a novel, make some music, raise some amazing kids, have a long and challenging career, learn to tell good stories and jokes, improve the world a bit, take care of myself, and be a good friend.

Am I asking too much? We shall see. 😆

We’re only given this one life, so you might as well at least try to make the most of it.

You’ll have it all
I’ll have it all
We’ll have it all


“Whale, swim with me whale”

I don’t think I’ve heard anything quite like “Whale”, such an odd song. It’s inspiring, beautiful, and a little dark.

Yellow Ostrich is kind of blowing my mind here. 🤯

I think “the whale” is all about letting go and (literally) going deep to find your best self.

It gets off to a slow start.

Whale, swim with me whale
We will go far into the sea

Then it builds up and comes crashing down again around 2:00.

I’ve been swimming for a thousand years and I’ve
Seen more than you can realize

And finally all comes together in a soaring climax starting around 2:35.

You will take me
Onto your back

Never look back
Never look back
Never look back…


“So I died and went to work…”

A great song by Neko Case about burning yourself out over the people…

Tired of trying to make everyone happy
Too tired to sing your own songs

Reclaiming your energy…

Do you wish you could stop everything
And take back your love
Say you’re sorry you gave it up so easy
And cry like you’re trying to be born

And getting to the work you were always meant to do.

So I died and went to work
So I died and went to work

Thank you, Neko. 🙏