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Happily Married Couples Exhibit Best Friend Behavior

I almost dismissed this article outright when first I saw the title because I thought it was going to be overly-simplistic.

πŸ‘‰ The #1 Thing All Happily Married Couples Have in Common

But it’s a good article and hella inspiring! It talks about positivity bias, productive fighting, and the benefits of being married to your best friend:

  • Nobody cares who makes the money
  • Vacations are easy to agree on
  • Chores are divided evenly
  • You have incredible sex
  • You feel understood
  • You fight productively

A friend is someone who knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently allows you to grow

⚠️ Just be sure to contrast this with What You Lose When You Gain a Spouse. πŸ€·πŸ»β€β™‚οΈ

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Why You Need Low-Stakes, Casual Friendships

I used to think of casual friendships as sort of calculating and shallow. Especially way back in high school, it seemed like having lots of friendships was a way to “collect” friends and just try to look cool. So I revolted and embraced only a few close, genuine friends. In fact, I still play video games every weekend with my elementary school friends from 40 years ago. And of course I’m so glad to have them.

But now after a few life adjustments, I’m finally learning that, as with self-confidence, I had things backwards. It’s okay and not shallow to make friends with random people (“neighbors, a barista at the neighborhood coffee shop or fellow members in a spin class”)! It’s fun, and people like it. πŸ€·πŸ»β€β™‚οΈ (What was I thinking?)

These two article are a good reminder that it’s good to just be a silly occasional friend with people.

β€œTake a ton of pictures, text your friends stupid things, check in with old friends as often as possible, express admiration to co-workers, and every day, tell as many people as you can that you love them.”

By the way… It’s not always easy doing this as a single, middle-aged guy. But it can be done. Women in particular may think you’re trying to pick them up. And maybe you are. It gets ambiguous. But that can be part of the fun. πŸ˜†

A 2014 study found that the more weak ties a person has (neighbors, a barista at the neighborhood coffee shop or fellow members in a spin class), the happier they feel.

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Ahhh, Sleep

I hate setting aside 8 hours to sleep as much as anyone. If you need some inspiration, consider these benefits of getting 7-8 hours of sleep instead of 6. I’m adding this as a note to myself… Don’t skim on sleep! It’s not a waste of time!

  • Unclogs your arteries
  • Clears out brain clutter
  • Improves brain performance

πŸ‘‰ Why Lack of Sleep is So Bad For You

I remember reading that good sleep habits also help maintain a better body weight. I believe that; I know I get the munchies pretty bad when I’m tired. πŸ˜ͺ


Follow up… An article on staying up late being tied to health issues including cancer and depression. 😡

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“Happiness isn’t a choice… it’s a habit.”

Happiness isn’t a choice, or meaningfulness or something that you arrive at once you achieve something; it’s a habit.

10 Habits of Consistently Happy People

Okay, here’s another one of these lists of things that happy/confident/successful people do. I’ve been generally skipping over these since they’re getting repetitive. But I saw this one and liked that it was emphasizing that these are not big, grand things, but little things to do consistently every day. (In that sense, it’s similar to being physically fit and eating right.)

πŸ‘‰ 10 Habits of Consistently Happy People

Summary: be optimistic, don’t compare, be grateful, be kind, maintain friendships, cope, forgive, pursue goals, be physically active, cultivate your sense of self.

But remember, pessimism has its place. πŸ€·πŸ»β€β™‚οΈ

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Walking: Crazy Good For You

This article digs into studies on the health benefits walking and other moderate exercise.

( Totally anecdotal, but my gramdmother-in-law lived past 100 years old, and she walked every day.)

πŸ‘‰ The Case for Walking

Most interesting takeaways:

  • People who describe themselves as “brisk walkers” tend to live 15-20 years longer than slow walkers.
  • Moderate exercise improves brain power. It takes 10-20 years off of your mental age.
  • 10,000 steps a day is not a magic number. Actually, it looks like 7,500 is ideal. But even less is still significantly helpful.
  • Excessive exercise can be “damaging for the heart and course long term damage”

β€œThe people who exercised were testing as if they were about 10 years younger at age 40 and about 20 years younger at age 60,”

Even though this article at first seems the opposite of a recent one on sprinting, I think they’re both related. They both basically say to do a moderate amount of exercise for a short amount of time to get maximum physical and mental benefits.

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256 ways to be a Better Human

A fundamentally insane idea, here is a directory of 256 ways to be a better human.

πŸ‘‰ A Directory of Advice That Works

This list covers productivity, health, mindfulness, business, and more. I think the list is too big to be helpful, but I like the inspired attempt to compile all this stuff. We could all certainly benefit from this info.

Personally, I feel like I have basically earned a degree on self-help over the last couple of years, and I’m at my limit. One of the things I’ve learned is to stop reading and thinking quite so much and instead get out there and do stuff. Nonetheless, here is the list. πŸ˜‚