Quotes

“All the ill that is in us comes from fear, and all the good from love.”

Fear makes people do stupid and crazy things.

Years ago, I vowed not to make any decisions driven by fear.

It’s not easy to do. But I’ve applied that idea most of the time (hey, I’m not perfect πŸ€·πŸ»β€β™‚οΈ). And when I didn’t, I regretted it.

When you do kind and loving things, good things happen — not immediately and not 100% of the time, but overall they send you (and those around you) to good places.

Okay, Eleanor Farjeon said it better. πŸ‘‡πŸ˜›

All the ill that is in us comes from fear, and all the good from love.

Eleanor Farjeon

See also: β€œLife can only be understood backwards, but it must be lived forwards.”

Quotes

“Move, but don’t move the way fear makes you move.”

Another gem from Rumi, the 13th-century Persian fountain of wisdom. 🀯

Move, but don’t move the way fear makes you move.

Rumi

Rumi was part of the old-school philosophy (quite literally) that focused on how to live a good life rather than the big questions of the universe. Although these two questions can certainly meld together.

πŸ‘‰ This open and fearless attitude might be useful for those anti-vaxxers among us.

I’m adding Rumi to my list of ancient people I wish I could hang out with, along with Marcus Aurelius, the Roman philosopher king and self-awareness guru who pre-dated Rumi by over 1000 years.

Books · You

Super Summary: Think Like a Monk

I accidentally subscribed to this visual book insights app called Lucid. It promised “Read faster. Remember more.” so I had to try it. πŸ€·πŸ»β€β™‚οΈ

Neglecting to cancel my free trial (oops!), I now have a full year of this service, so I might as well get the most out of it.

So this is my first “super summary” (a summary of the summary) for books I find interesting. You can see if you’re interested in reading the real thing. (audiobook | “book” book).

Think Like a Monk by Jay Shetty

πŸ‘‰ Luckily, we can take some useful lessons from monks without actually being Christian or abstinent. 😜

The monk mentality

Via Lucid

A monk has an inward focus and moves past pain and anxiety, leading to a happier and more meaningful life.

A monk focuses on core issues, long-term vision, and strives to find meaning. This is in contrast to a “monkey” mind, which is distracted, overwhelmed, and focusing on temporary fixes.

Identity and meaning

Via Lucid

Our core values define who we are and the meaning of our life. Our values should come from within rather than from other people’s influence.

We need to figure out what we’re all about so that we can focus our priorities and goals.

πŸ‘‰ This fits with some things the Savvy Psychologist said about values and meaning.

Dealing with negativity

πŸ‘‰ This section reminds me of the idea that people’s criticism often says more about themselves than the person they are criticizing. 🧐

If you think of others negatively, you think of yourself negatively.

To break this cycle: identity your negative thoughts towards others, stop, and reframe them in a more empathetic, specific, and helpful way.

If you think of others more positively, you think of yourself more positively and make better choices.

Conquering Fear

Via Lucid

πŸ‘‰ I like this section because I learned a while back that decisions driven by fear generally do not turn out well. 😱

Identify your deepest underlying fears. Acknowledge these fears and embrace them.

Then detach from your fears to make smart, independent, intentional choices.

Positive routines

πŸ‘‰ Despite this book calling for an early morning routine, I’m personally finding a relaxing nighttime routine especially useful. 😴

Wake up early to give yourself time to have a positive boost to your day. Use this time to be grateful, read & learn, meditate, and exercise.

Get to bed early and plan how you will conquer the next day.

The battle in your mind

Via Lucid

πŸ‘‰ I love this section because of the wolf analogy. 🀩

In each of our minds are two wolves battling with each other for control. One wolf is consumed by fear, anger, insecurity, and ego. The other is driven by love, kindness, humility, and positivity.

You can feed one of them (yes the good one!) by giving it your time and energy.

This internal battle is normal, and we should view it as external to us. Use meditation to observe your mind and better understand what might be triggering any negative thoughts.

Reframe negative thoughts in a positive way, changing problems and fears into positive actions.