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256 ways to be a Better Human

A fundamentally insane idea, here is a directory of 256 ways to be a better human.

๐Ÿ‘‰ A Directory of Advice That Works

This list covers productivity, health, mindfulness, business, and more. I think the list is too big to be helpful, but I like the inspired attempt to compile all this stuff. We could all certainly benefit from this info.

Personally, I feel like I have basically earned a degree on self-help over the last couple of years, and I’m at my limit. One of the things I’ve learned is to stop reading and thinking quite so much and instead get out there and do stuff. Nonetheless, here is the list. ๐Ÿ˜‚

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Under Pressure

The Savvy Psychologist, one of my favorite podcasts, recently posted a great episode on performance anxiety.

๐Ÿ‘‰ Savvy Psychologist: 3 Secrets to Beat Performance Anxiety

As always, she keeps it simple, concise, and practical.

  1. Get excited to create a feeling of opportunity
  2. Use a ritual to ground yourself and help with focus
  3. Practice self-affirmation

As a bonus, I also came across this one in my Medium feed.

๐Ÿ‘‰ 6 Science-Backed Strategies to Avoid Choking Under Pressure

I might be imagining this, but I think this one only has five techniques. ๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿปโ€โ™‚๏ธ. And they seem to focus mostly on positive thinking. And they overlap a bit.

  1. Donโ€™t think too hard
  2. Practice under pressure
  3. Pretend like youโ€™ve already won
  4. Tell yourself that youโ€™re in control
  5. Give yourself a pep talk

Kind of a muddled article. If nothing else, it helps me appreciate the Savvy Psychologist!

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“What Iโ€™ve Learned from Surrounding Myself with Confident People”

Back in the day, I used to think that confidence was about putting on a show for people or just thinking you’re better than other people. I kind of hated the idea of “confidence” because I though it was an act — fake and self-serving. In retrospect, I think I was confusing confidence with over-confidence or arrogance.

I finally understand now that true confidence (and leadership) is about being yourself, having a vision, and lifting other people up with you. I keep running into articles on this topic, and this is one of my favs.

๐Ÿ‘‰ What Iโ€™ve Learned from Surrounding Myself with Confident People

I actually had trouble with this idea for a long time: being confident doesn’t make you an asshole. In fact, just the opposite is true. It makes the people around you feel valued and comfortable.

Highlights

Confident people are flexible and humble.

What separates the truly confident from theย overconfidentย is their ability to seek out advice from people with varying points of view.

They are curious.

Confident people donโ€™t need to control a conversation. They know their own agenda; they want to learn about yours.

They’re not in it for approval.

The truly confident, as Kareem Abdul Jabbar once put it, just want โ€œto play the game well and go home.โ€

They are generous.

Confident people take real pleasure in seeing other people succeed and recognize the importance of supporting others.

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Sylvan Constellation

I don’t think a lot about cemeteries, but this article has some really beautiful alternatives to traditional cemeteries, which this article calls ”ย toxic wastelands” and even cremation, which “emits the equivalent of 41,040 cars worth of carbon dioxide into the atmosphere in the United States alone.”

My favorite is the “Sylvan Constellation”, which transforms decomposition into electricity, resulting in a ghostly star-like grave. Sounds better than decaying underground to me anyways. ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿปโ€โ™‚๏ธ

๐Ÿ‘‰ Becoming Stardust: The Future Cemetery


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Focus On Your Craft

Okay, at first this seems like another one of those articles that says “get off social media” or “back in the days before the internet…”. But it’s better than just that.

๐Ÿ‘‰ Make Peace With One Thing to Get More Out of Life

The core idea here is basically focus on your craft.

Creating authentic work that feeds your soul is all you need to do. It will fulfill you into old age, long after the Internet celebrities of the moment have moved on to late night TV commercials.

This article asks great questions, like:

  • Why do I want more followers? To what end?
  • What happens if I get them?
  • What would I do if I didn’t have an audience?

Get comfortable with digital irrelevancy. Get off the social media treadmill and figure out what you really love doing. Then set about learning your craft.

Reminder to Self

In my own case, I have a measly 120 followers on my Instagram account. Yeah, sometimes I wish I had 500 or 800 followers. But how would that change my life? It wound’t. What if I could make a living on Instagram? Well damn, that would ruin it. The pressure of having to post interesting stuff on a regular basis would make it no fun at all.

I like Instagram because it’s a place to share photos with cool filters. And I like seeing other people’s cool photos. And occasionally connecting with people. And finding good places to eat and stuff to do.

As for this blog… my About page says that I have an intended audience of one (me). I find writing these posts useful because it makes me really read articles and focus on what they’re saying. And it makes me keep writing at least a little bit on a regular basis to help keep my brain engaged. I also like sharing good content that I come across on the interwebs

If I tried to make this a popular blog that makes me money, I would quickly drive myself insane. I have a day job for that. ๐Ÿ˜‚

Much to my surprise, I have collected a few subscribers along the way. Hi, friends! Thanks for subscribing, and sorry for all the random posts!