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Casual Pros and Cons

I came across two articles on casual dating lately. One talks about the inherent frustration of casual dating. The other talks about the rules for doing it right. The former is meaningful and long, and the later is quick and right to the point. So I guess that’s fitting. ๐Ÿ˜‚

๐Ÿ‘‰ โ€˜I Canโ€™t Do Casualโ€™

Interesting letter to oneself about knowing what you want and saying it.

๐Ÿ‘‰ The 5 Rules Of Casual Dating

I think these are true of basically any relationship. ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿปโ€โ™‚๏ธ

  1. Be communicative about your deal breakers.
  2. Be honest, even when itโ€™s uncomfortable.
  3. Define the relationship.
  4. Show up.
  5. Be respectful.
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“What Iโ€™ve Learned from Surrounding Myself with Confident People”

Back in the day, I used to think that confidence was about putting on a show for people or just thinking you’re better than other people. I kind of hated the idea of “confidence” because I though it was an act — fake and self-serving. In retrospect, I think I was confusing confidence with over-confidence or arrogance.

I finally understand now that true confidence (and leadership) is about being yourself, having a vision, and lifting other people up with you. I keep running into articles on this topic, and this is one of my favs.

๐Ÿ‘‰ What Iโ€™ve Learned from Surrounding Myself with Confident People

I actually had trouble with this idea for a long time: being confident doesn’t make you an asshole. In fact, just the opposite is true. It makes the people around you feel valued and comfortable.

Highlights

Confident people are flexible and humble.

What separates the truly confident from theย overconfidentย is their ability to seek out advice from people with varying points of view.

They are curious.

Confident people donโ€™t need to control a conversation. They know their own agenda; they want to learn about yours.

They’re not in it for approval.

The truly confident, as Kareem Abdul Jabbar once put it, just want โ€œto play the game well and go home.โ€

They are generous.

Confident people take real pleasure in seeing other people succeed and recognize the importance of supporting others.

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Think something positive? Voice it.

Great article about building better relationships (of all kinds).

Want a Happier, More Fulfilling Life? 75-Year Harvard Study Says Focus on This 1 Thing

It basically comes down to expressing gratitude towards people you appreciate.

When you think something positive and you genuinely believe it, voice it.

And this habit tends to circle back to you.

When you practice Positive Alacrity, youโ€™re not only uplifting others. Above all, youโ€™re uplifting yourself.