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“Sometimes it’s their looks, but it’s never just that.”

I recently rediscovered a dazzling post from one of my previous favorite writers on Medium, who has taken lately to more of a “We’re screwed” vibe. πŸ€·πŸ»β€β™‚οΈ

πŸ‘‰What Really Makes Someone Beautiful

Despite the title, this is not just one of those “beauty is only skin deep” platitudes.

Aren’t we drawn to people with hidden depth and curiosity? People who show who they really are. People who are strong, funny, creative, and kind. People who see beauty in the weirdness and in the darkness. People who are not innocent, even if they appear innocent.

Beauty can be found in the balance of all these things.

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The Three Pillars of Charisma

I used to think being charismatic was all about telling amazing stories and making people laugh. Not being a great storyteller or much of a comedian, I thought I could never be charismatic. Fortunately, this article says I had it all wrong. πŸ˜‚

It’s about being present, removing self-doubt, and being kind and accepting to other people. Presence, power, and warmth. That sounds pretty manageable, right?

Now go out there, be in it, relax, and be nice to people. Congrats, you’re charismatic. ☺️

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Happily Married Couples Exhibit Best Friend Behavior

I almost dismissed this article outright when first I saw the title because I thought it was going to be overly-simplistic.

πŸ‘‰ The #1 Thing All Happily Married Couples Have in Common

But it’s a good article and hella inspiring! It talks about positivity bias, productive fighting, and the benefits of being married to your best friend:

  • Nobody cares who makes the money
  • Vacations are easy to agree on
  • Chores are divided evenly
  • You have incredible sex
  • You feel understood
  • You fight productively

A friend is someone who knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently allows you to grow

⚠️ Just be sure to contrast this with What You Lose When You Gain a Spouse. πŸ€·πŸ»β€β™‚οΈ